“It feels very confusing. It’s bittersweet. It’s funny, it’s empowering, it’s ‘Screw you,’ it’s all of that. It’s amazing to be number one but it’s ironic that it took [Carey Hart and I] breaking-up to get there. It’s a testament to how often people break-up, because everyone can relate to what I’m saying.

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• Ximena Sarinana Mediocre
  The Mexican actress is from cinematic royalty, but with this album she truly makes a name for herself. Like a Latina Fiona Apple, her album of jazzy, seductive grinds translates even though it’s in Spanish.

“Gossip Girl” and “The OC” creator Josh Schwartz has been working on another new series that you will certainly become addicted to, but it’s going to air on a smaller screen than his other shows. “Rockville, CA” premieres March 17 on TheWB.com with 20 scheduled episodes averaging four minutes each. The web series, which Schwartz is working on with his shows’ music supervisor, Alexandra Patsavas, is about twentysomethings in the indie music world.  Much of the web series was filmed at Los Angeles music venue Passion Pit, and Lykke Li making appearances. We already watch a bunch of TV shows online, so we’re totally down with spending an four extra minutes on our computer, especially if it’s gonna fill us on on who’s the indie band of the moment. [Variety]

By now you’ve probably decided what your New Year’s resolutions are—and chances are, some of them are somehow related to our current economic crisis. Have you resolved to start bringing your lunch everyday to save money? Decided to do your yoga workouts at home, rather than at a pricey studio? We sent our girl Lori out to find out some others…

Whitney Casey’s The Man Plan: Drive Men Wild… Not Away promises to help you find Mr. Right or a bunch of Mr. Right Nows. How? We’re not sure, but as a “relationship expert” on Match.com, a TV personality and international journalist, Casey, we’re sure, has a wealth of knowledge regarding the opposite sex. Check out some facts about Casey and other ways to find her relationship advice after the jump.

Reader Sarah took this photo and the two after the jump in the same bathroom. No doubt that stall would be good for gettin’ lucky.

Have you seen graffiti that’s kind of sweet (even if it is against the law)? Send your pic to tips@thefrisky.com.

Sneakers really aren’t our go-to footwear because most of the time we’re wearing dresses or skirts. But these high tops satisfy our need for glamour and comfort. Made of satin, an unconventional sneaker fabric, these high tops would look cute and unexpected with a casual dress or skirt. Plus, they remind us of old school roller skates from the laces to the taupe-ish color. [$59.99, UrbanOutfitters.com]

Matthew may have found his soul mate—a woman who will attend all of his college football games with him, birth him a beautiful baby, and let him play with the placenta. [Fiesta Bowl, Glendale, AZ, 01/05/09]

On the cover of today’s free paper AM New York is a hard-hitting headline about how the New York City Department of Health found that...wait for it… binge drinking leads to sex. Puh-lease, after ZERO drinks I’ll do the nasty! Plus, if that was all it took to get laid, I’d get hammered in morning, I’d get hammered in the evening, I’d get hammered all over this land!  According to the Health Department’s report, if you have more than five drinks in one sitting, at least once a month, you’re a big slutty drunky-drunk. [Oops. Oops again. Oops.—Editor] And by slutty, the study means you have had two to four partners a year. Whore! 

“Why won’t he commit?”

“Get your man to say ‘I do!’”

“Why don’t guys call when they say they will?”

Peruse any magazine rack and various Web sites and you’ll see headlines such as these splattered all over. Inside you’ll read article upon article about how women can decode, seduce, corral, turn on, and coerce men.

This time around there won’t be any will-it-ever-happen talk like there was with “Sex and the City: The Movie” because Sarah Jessica Parker, Kim Cattrall and HBO have confirmed a sequel to the $153 million grossing film. In order to have a 2010 release, said Parker, production would have to begin this summer. Costume designer Patricia Field told MTV that a sequel is in the works, but only in the very early states and she has yet to receive any official information—which we take to mean a plot and a script. 

Most women have heard that body odors play a role in sexual attraction. I mean, why else would we spend money on pheromone-laced oils? Oh, maybe that was just me. Anyway, did you realize that being in love affects our perception and processing of body odors? According to a study performed in Montreal, women who are deeply in love can recognize their partner’s scent, but are unable to recognize the scent of male friends who might be rivals for their affection.

As I wrote yesterday, if you have any desire to possibly, maybe having something deeper than bed rockin’ nookie with a dude, you shouldn’t sleep with him on the first date. I came to this conclusion after many years of experience, chatting with friends (men and women), and having a late night, New Year’s champagne-infused to heart-to-heart with a friend’s husband. But I didn’t think it was fair to use him as my sole source, so I decided to pester the guys on my IM about their experience and impressions of first date sex and whether they could see developing a relationship with a lady they banged on the first date.

Before my husband and I could have a Catholic wedding, we had to attend Pre-Cana. It’s like Driver’s Ed. for engaged Catholic couples. In theory, it’s a great idea. Couples are counseled en masse on a wide-range of topics, including compatibility and conflict resolution within marriage, the theological meaning of marriage, and Catholic rules couples might like to follow (like those regarding birth control). But we weren’t too excited about the prospect of our Pre-Cana. 

Dr. Martens isn’t the only boot-maker collaborating with other designers this year. Hunter Boots, famed for their wellies, asked Jimmy Choo to work with them, and a pair with an embossed crocodile pattern, leopard-print lining, and gold-metal buckles and rivets was the result. The boots will be available in June for $395 in Jimmy Choo stores and on its website. In case you’re price shopping, a pair of Hunter Originals goes for $115.95. [WWD via Nitrolicious]

I’m smack in the middle of my thirties and about to get married. For some childless women my age, this is tick-tick-tick time. However, while other women may be intimately in touch with their ovulation cycles, I’m in no hurry to have kids now, if ever. My old man and I have talked about it, but we’re both horrified by how much our lives would have to change—not to mention how big a pain in the ass kids are for, oh, say, 18 years.

We get a lot of mail from readers, some insanely flattering, some helpful (thanks for doing a little free copy-editing for us, guys!), and plenty of nasty hate mail. With that in mind, we’re going to post some of the best reader mail we get from time to time, because we totally appreciate that you even take the time to write!

“It is doubtful there is a more sexist site on the internet pretending not to be sexist. You not only think little of men but you are ignorant of them as well. All you are really doing is making sure more women end up alone.”

Damn, you’re on to us. A couple weeks ago, we had this BIG meeting to, like, discuss the future of The Frisky, where we were going editorially in 2009, and then I had an idea. Actually, our office man slave had an idea—his name is also “Slave,” such a coincidence, right?!—so I took out his ball gag for a second and gave him permission to speak. He said, “Mistresses, the site should be more man AND woman hating. I mean, you obviously hate men, but why don’t you hate women too, and then it’ll be equal opportunity sexism, which, in a way, isn’t sexist at all, and then everyone will be confused. It’ll be great for traffic!” Then I shoved the gag back in his mouth and made him give me a foot rub, while I chatted with the guys on my IM and pretended to care. Also, what’s so bad about being alone? You save tons of money on toilet paper.

But Anne ain’t got time for questions, yo. [Premiere of “Bride Wars,” NYC, 01/05/09]

Above, clockwise: The Original Cherry-Red Eight-Eyelet 1460 Work Boot; Sean John’s Interpretation; Vivienne Westwood’s Fishnet-Decorated Version; And Lulu Guinness’s Purple Painted Pair.

While cleaning out her closet, my sister found her beloved pair of sparkly gold Dr. Martens from high school. She wore them that night, just another sign that the brand is making a comeback. To celebrate its 50th anniversary, which is next January 4, Dr. Martens asked big name designers like Vivienne Westwood and Rick Owens to customize the original cherry-red eight-eyelet 1460 work boot. You can’t buy any of the designer interpretations, but you can get a pair of the originals and decorate them yourself. [1460Boots.com via Nylon]