While many people have heard about BDSM as a category on adult websites, the fact is that many of them don’t know much about it. There are some books and movies, such as Fifty Shades of Gray, that introduced it to a wider audience. The common misconception is that the whole point is the introduction […]
I’ve never been afraid to ask for what I want in bed. I guess because during my teenage years I figured out I was/am a perv and I just owned it. But in my decade-plus of hooking up with dudes, I’ve come to see being clear about what I want is a bit rare: Guys […]
A few years ago …. Today, in 2019, I avoid him as much as I can. But my friend (?) Richard used to joke (?) that I only called him when I broke up with my boyfriends. Kinda true, kinda false. Regardless — a few years ago — I don’t even call him this time, […]
Recently, I’ve been talking to people in the BDSM community about the sexual assault allegations made against porn star James Deen by a dozen women late last year, and noticed that a number of the men I spoke with had a look of nervousness flash across their face when the subject came up. So, I started […]
Well, if you’re married to a feminist [journalist, restaurateur and actress Elizabeth Chambers] as I am, then it’s…. I don’t know how much we can put here without my parents being embarrassed, but I used to like to be a dominant lover. I liked the grabbing of the neck and the hair and all that. […]
I texted him as soon as I woke up. “What do you want me to wear today?” I brushed my teeth and washed my face while I waited for him to text me back. “White button-down shirt. Tuck it in. Your jeans. Flats. Put your hair in a ponytail. Send me a photo.” I dressed […]
The words “feminine dominant” inevitably conjure a specific image. Without fail, there in your mind is that hard-bitten woman, the one with all the cliched, head-to-toe pleather, and the stern, fixed aura. I am in no way that woman. I am warm, I’m open, I’m loose-spirited. I’m messy. I am no ice-queen, the stern school-marm […]
Imagine a woman: She has a college degree and a job, she pays for her own house and car, and she’s not intimidated by any man for any reason. She’s smart, independent and strong. Isn’t it a puzzle, then, that she has sexual fantasies of being dominated? Actually, researchers say, it makes perfect sense. In […]
Call me in one hour and tell me your boyfriend dumped you,” I told my girl friend as we stood outside the movie theater where we had just seen “Magic Mike.” “If the party’s weird and I want to leave, I’ll say ‘Oh my God, are you okay? I’ll come meet you!’ Got it?” “Sure […]
