The dating world can be complex enough as a divorced single mom. You already feel out of practice and like the rules have changed since you were last out there.
As more and more young women are discovering their own potential genetic fate the numbers considering preventative surgery is also on the increase. The first issue for women under 35 is their sexuality and to be more specific to their future life.
Source: mnn.com
At 38 years old and three years post my own preventative mastectomy, I have some good news to share. There are a lot of surprisingly positive things that have happened since my surgery. The biggest change has been in my own personal perspective. The psychological fall out following the surgery has been more of a slow trickle of events rather than the anticipated immediate switch in my psyche. There is, as with any major surgery, a 3-4 month period that is all about physical recovery. I was astounded by the feelings of disconnect I felt with my new body and I felt unsure if I would ever feel connected to the plastic “fobbies” (fake breasts not implants) that now seemed to lead me into every room. As a woman with fairly small assets presurgery, the surgery left me with larger perkier and I guess hotter than ever cleavage.
Following the recovery time, I did quickly forget for most of my day that I was now partially plastic. There were occasional comments from other women wanting to know the details of my surgeon as the results were incredible and maintained a very natural appearance. This was all on the surface and left me feeling as pepped up and bouncy as my new breasts themselves.
Source: slate.com
The deeper issue was found when I needed to expose my body, that first-time moment with a new partner. Several questions would begin to whirl around my head making me want to run away or delay physical contact as long as possible. I even thought about “bra sex” a way to prevent the awkward question was to simply keep my bra on. This was not a good plan and often resulted in an even more uncomfortable tug of war. The date would attempt to remove my bra in a cute way and be greeted with my odd refusal. I am a divorcee and single mom, why on earth would I be shy about exposing my breasts? I realized quickly that the best way to deal was to face the issue head-on. I began to explain why, how, and what the mastectomy surgery was all about and found to my pleasure that the men all responded in a very positive way. I had discovered that most men want to make you feel good and as they don’t have much experience of the preventative cancer world they would be filled with questions and a renewed sense of respect for the woman that was sitting before them. The other great news was that the “foobies” became a great part of the foreplay, I was having even more fun, embracing my new body and all my lusciousness.
Source: Dr. Richard J. Brown, MD
I felt freer than ever and more able to explore my new body. We all have issues and hangups with ourselves and yet it is those hang-ups that ruin our lives “in bed” not the imperfections themselves.
If you or anyone you know has to consider having a mastectomy check out PrevivorLife.com and learn everything you need.
