Pegging is a sexual act in which a woman wears a strap-on dildo and performs anal sex on a man. Don’t cringe. I wasn’t aware of the act until I worked at a sex store years ago; That’s where I was first introduced. I was so surprised by how many couples came into the store to purchase strap-on dildos — big ones, too!
It may sound shocking, but it’s actually pretty common. Some of your favorite celebrities have been outed as lovers of getting pegged: Kanye West, Tom Cruise, Usher… It’s 2017, ladies; If your man likes to be pegged, it doesn’t mean he’s gay. And guys, if your girl wants to peg you, it doesn’t mean she thinks any less of a man. If you’re open-minded enough to try it and are looking for ways to bring something different into the bedroom, here’s how to do it:
First Thing’s First: Consent Is a Must
Before engaging in any sexual activity, consent needs to be given by all parties involved. You wanna make sure the both of you are on the same page and are ready to do some consensual pegging.
Clean ‘Er Up
So, cleanliness is just as important as lube is when it comes to anal play. Before getting into it, you wanna make sure that your man’s anal way is rid of any type of mess. There’s a lot that goes on back there, especially when you have to go #2. So you want to make sure all of that is out of the way. Your man should clean himself out with a natural, chemical-free enema about an hour before sexy time comes. Make sure he’s all cleaned out before going in. Things can get messy, smelly, and you can risk the chance of contracting Hep-A.
Lube Is Your BFF
Actually, lube is EVERYTHING. Lube is essential for going into anyone’s anal cavity. But for men? Before you even think about sliding into your man from behind, lube, lube, lube it up. The best type of lube to use is a silicone-based one rather than water-based. Water-based lubes tend to wear off faster and you’d have to keep reapplying. Uh, ain’t nobody got time for that. Silone-based is the way to go. It has the right amount of slickness, stickiness, and slipperiness to get the pegging job done.
It’s All About Quality
If you’re gonna peg, you’ve gotta do it right. This means, everything from the cleanliness of your man, to the right type of lube, to the dildo you use, has to be of good quality. Don’t cheap your way out of this. There’s going to be a lot of trial and error when it comes to choosing the right fit for your man, but you have to be patient because using the wrong type of dildo can cause him a lot of pain and can also make a big mess. Cheaper dildos can tug on the skin which can lead to burning the skin. I’m not saying you have to get the top of the line dildo, but one that has quality material and won’t bend and break so easily.
When it comes to harnesses, find one that fits you well. You’re the one wearing it, so it has to be conformable to you. Just make sure it’s adjustable and sturdy so it won’t slip off into your lover. OUCH.
Get Into Position
Now that you’re all set and ready to go, bring on the play! If you have no clue as to what position to begin with, start off with your man on his back, in the missionary position. This allows his body to relax and gives you both a chance of intimacy, gazing into each eyes. Plus, it’s easier for you to communicate with him and make sure he’s comfortable. When it’s time to turn things up a notch, let him get on all fours for a little doggy style.
Go In With Ease
The key with pegging is to take things slow. You don’t want to ram into your guy, but you do want to go in with ease. Just imagine if it were your first time. Warm him up before you go for the gold.
Things to Remember
Please note that taking it in the back is never as easy as it looks, especially if it’s your first time. Remember to be patient with your partner and make sure he’s in a comfortable place before he takes all of “you” in. Also, keep in mind that you aren’t starring in the latest porno, so you don’t have to put the moves on him like your name is Jessica Drake. Simple moves are all you need.
Lastly, all may not go well the first time around. But don’t let this discourage you. The saying “If at first you don’t succeed, try, try again” pertains to this situation, too. Everyone’s different when it comes to size and shapes. Give him time to adjust.
Original by: Ashlee Miller