Ladies, if you ever start to date a guy who fits one of the descriptions in this slideshow, be wary: these six guys come with baggage. But wouldn’t you know it, women aren’t always gentler when it comes to relationship heartbreak, so we’ve thrown in six types of women who won’t make dudes happy either. We’ve got all your backs.
The Man Who Hates His Job
Hating your job – where you spend the majority of your time – is a destructive mindset which can poison a relationship. It’s one thing to be mildly dissatisfied with work life while at work, but a man who is absolutely miserable at his job will spend a good amount of his free time being absolutely miserable about it as well, and that’s not good. It’s important to like what you do, and if this man doesn’t, why is he still doing it? Why doesn’t he change his career, or advance in it, or do his best to change his attitude? You don’t want to date someone who gets stuck in an unhappy situation and doesn’t do anything about it. Is this what he’s going to be like if there are relationship problems down the line?
The Woman Who Has No Girlfriends
There’s something really appealing about a low-maintenance girl who can hold her own with all your guy friends. But a girl who has no girl friends whatsoever should set off warning bells. What is it about her that prevents her from being able to relate and befriend other women? Is attention from guys so important to her that she insists on surrounding herself with them at all times? Is being the girl who hangs with the boys a too-integral part of her identity? And, even if you aren’t the jealous type, are you really going to be okay with her hanging out and confiding in other guys, night after night after night?
The Man Who’s Obsessed With His Mother
He loves her, defers to her, consults her about everything, and you will never live up to her. Or conversely, he hates her, constantly complains about her, and expects you to be the complete opposite of her. Either way, there isn’t enough room in a relationship for you, him, and the giant Shadow Of His Mother.
The Woman Who Thinks Life Is A Romantic Comedy
This is the woman who thinks your relationship isn’t working unless you’re standing outside her window with a boom box or surprising her with a first edition of her favorite childhood book at regular 3 month intervals. She doesn’t understand that life isn’t like the movies, and she seems incapable of seeing the romance in the small moments and quotidien gestures you do to show her you care. What’s worse, she’ll put enormous pressure on you for holidays,anniversaries, and birthdays, making any natural romantic inclination seem forced. Better to find a woman who can also appreciate the quieter moments in you relationship.
The Man Who Needs To Be Admired
It’s not enough for you to tell him he’s smart and funny and attractive. He needs to feel it and hear it from other people, too, and he’s willing to work for it by constantly flirting with other people, via email, at parties, in line at the grocery store, with the waitstaff of restaurants…everywhere. Even though he won’t straight out cheat, you’ll never feel enough for this man, because, well, you aren’t.
The Woman Who Expects You To Pay—Always
Maybe you paid for the first date. Maybe you paid for the first four dates. Fine! You’re a generous and chivalrous gentleman. But at some point down the line, the woman has got to offer to pay for something. There are more women in the workforce than men now: she’s definitely making her own money, and a relationship is about equality and partnership, not meal tickets. Having one partner shoulder the financial burden is just not realistic in 2019.
The Man Who Has Friends You Never Meet
He’s always emailing, texting, or running off to see “friends,” but you’re never invited to come along. It’s not that you suspect he’s cheating on you, but a guy who compartmentalizes his life like that is clearly not ready to share it with anyone else. Either he’s ashamed of you, or he’s ashamed of them: either way, it’s a red flag.
The Woman Who Always Has A Boyfriend
Looking through her Facebook pictures, you notice that she’s changed partners more often than her hairstyle. We’re not talking about a woman who hooks up with a lot of guys, we’re talking about the woman who embarks on full-on relationships with one guy after another—cutesy couple pictures on Facebook and all. This girl hasn’t been single since she was 15: the chronology of her life seems to be marked by ex-boyfriends. (“Chad, the High School Boyfriend.” “Paul, the College Boyfriend.” “Carlo, from Study Abroad in Florence.”) Whenever she dates someone, she enthusiastically jumps into her boyfriend’s world, altering her dress, appearance, and hobbies to fit his. So who are you really dating? A well-rounded woman? Or an amalgamation of ex-boyfriends who will find a new boyfriend after she’s through with you with the ease with which one might replace a part in a car?
The Man Who Wants To Rescue You
For some reason, he always seems to date people who are complete basket cases, because he likes to play the hero. He loves to act as a stabilizing force, rescuing women from their situations or themselves, advising, helping, tranquilizing. The more troubled a woman is, the more attracted he feels: he needs to feel needed. But the second her life starts to get in order, he loses interest: because, without her issues to take away the focus from him, he’s left with his own problems and insecurities to deal with. And that he absolutely cannot do.
The Woman Who’s A Total Basket Case
She’s going through a really hard time right now. Except that time is always. To be clear, we’re not talking about normal women who are going through a rough period, we’re talking about that woman whose very identity is tied up with the fact that she’s a mess. Her mercurial temper, unpredictable moods, and sudden fits of crying are alluring at first, even sexy: here’s a woman with passion in her life! Here’s a woman who needs you, you can fix things for her! But you can’t fix things, only a therapist and a hearty prescription can. After the hundredth meltdown, and the hundredth refusal to seek actual help, you’ll want to run.
The Man Who Puts Work First
He’s late for dates because he “got caught up at work”, or otherwise he’s too exhausted to go out. When he’s with you he’s preoccupied, always solving problems in his head and itching to get back to his computer. He hasn’t taken a vacation in years. He promises that things will change “once things calm down a bit at work”, but they never seem to. He might really like you, he might even love you, but work is his entire life, which doesn’t leave much room for a relationship with you.
The Woman Who Hates That You Interact With Other Women
This woman makes you feel guilty for walking down the same street as another woman, and no amount of compliments, affection and loyalty can convince her that you aren’t interested in anyone else. She is constantly, slyly trying to get you to voice your opinion on other women by saying things like “Carla’s pretty, don’t you think?” and then acting hurt if you dare concede that yes, Carla’s cute. This is an endless, exhausting cycle, and soon, you will find yourself looking around for better options.