Whether you’ve just begun a new relationship or married, as a couple, you’ll experience a lag in the romance department at some point. It can be due to work, schedules conflicting, or not really having the time or finances to do some of the romantic things you want to do. Whatever your reasoning may be, it’s no excuse.
Everybody is busy and has their own things going on, but when your relationship hits that lag, and you actually notice when it happens, you have to do something to remedy that as soon as you can. Regardless of your schedules, if you really love your significant other, then it is imperative to bring back that romance you once had. Not doing so could potentially lead to you both growing apart.
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Bringing back the romance doesn’t have to be overly expensive either. Something as simple as investing in a few candles to set the mood is a great way to set a romantic tone for your significant other if finances are one of your hang-ups. You can get candles at certain stores for one dollar. So, for a couple of bucks, you can possibly give your relationship an instant facelift. It’s not about how much it costs to rekindle that flame – it’s about the effort it took in lighting the spark.
When you know, you’ve hit a dry patch in your relationship, and you see that your loved one is actively making an effort not to let it head towards a sad ending, that can be a turn-on all in itself. So, whether your relationship has hit a lag, or you’re wanting to prevent that lag from happening, consider trying these tips on bringing back the romance in your relationship.
Lingerie
Lingerie is not typically something you wear everyday…it’s usually worn for special occasions. What better occasion to wear something sexy than when the romance has left the building? One thing we talked about earlier is that effort is key when wanting to spice things up in your relationship, right? Well, with lingerie not being something commonly worn on an everyday basis, when you do wear it, he’ll know that you wore it specifically for him, and what your intentions are in wearing it.
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Lingerie not only looks sexy on you, from his perspective, but as a woman, it also makes you feel sexy and confident as well. There’s nothing sexier than a woman that’s utterly confident, knowing she looks incredible. The fact that you put forth the effort in wanting to wear that just for him will turn up the romance, as well as be a reminder that the love is worth fighting for.
Build Up the Anticipation
If your relationship hasn’t experienced much romance or kink in a while, maybe you need to give each other something to look forward to. It’s almost like how when you’re getting ready to go on a vacation. Your anticipation levels are so high during the time leading up to the day that your vacation actually begins…that same logic can be applied when spicing things up.
Something as simple as sending suggestive texts to your partner throughout the day can set the tone for the evening to come. The theory sounds too simple to actually work, but it really does, especially when the relationship has hit a dull point.
When you encounter a snag in a relationship’s romantic sector, both parties in the relationship are aware that the romance has diminished and has been that way for some time, but it might seem like no one has done, or is willing to do, anything to fix it. So, go ahead and accept that it might be up to you to initiate the effort needed to fix it. Sending a suggestive text will show your partner that you are thinking about them in a way that you may not have thought about each other in a while…that should definitely make some sparks fly!
Make the Time
Planning for romance may not sound romantic, but depending on your schedules, sometimes you have to plan for it. Making time also includes preparing for the romance as well. If you know that you want to bring the romance on a particular night, then preparation is key.
Source: Pulse.ngThis is when you want to have the candles ready, make sure your bed is draped in soft and comfy bedding, and have the wine chilled. You’ll also want to get rid of any and all distractions. This means turn phones off or put them on silent, and turn off the television. Doing all of this in preparation for a romantic evening truly shows that you put forth the effort and made the time for it.
In making the time for romance, don’t forget to get “touchy-feely.” Where and how you touch your loved one can speak volumes, especially when it has been a while since you’ve touched each other. The way you touch each other in these moments definitely need to be affectionate, so when you make the time, take the time to really enjoy each other’s company through soft touches.