Just like man, women can ejaculate as well, but it is much more difficult for them. You need to do the right things to make a woman do it. “Female ejaculation is normal,” says Marissa Nelson, LMFT, certified sex therapist. “Some women already ejaculate, some haven’t learned how, and some hold back to prevent themselves from doing it.”
You can try to achieve this with your partner. It is not a taboo and why wouldn’t you try it out? Here are some other things you should know about it before you jump into bed.
It isn’t pee
Many people believe that this liquid is actually urine and this is the biggest controversy when it comes to squirting. “Female ejaculate is a watery liquid, either clear or milky, that comes from the female prostate glands and is released through the urethra, the same hole you pee out of,” says Nelson. “But it doesn’t smell or look like urine at all.”
It can be pee
Some women squirts to pee and there is a high chance that you will have the similar feeling when you are squirting as if you are peeing. “The sensation to pee during G-spot stimulation is very normal, since the tissue around your urethra is flooded with blood and the tissue contracts and presses against your bladder,” explains Nelson.
“If you’d rather not urinate—or if you want to be able to tell the difference between peeing and squirting—take a quick pee break and then continue. If you still have the strong urge to pee in the first couple of minutes after you emptied your bladder, you can be sure that it’s ejaculate, not urine, that’s going to come out.”
Stimulate the G-spot
To start squirting, you need to stimulate the G-spot “Most women who ejaculate do so as a result of touching there,” says Nelson. “The G-spot swells when aroused, so it’s best to try to go to work on it when you’re already aroused from foreplay or clitoral stimulation.”
The G-spot Nelson refers to is located about two inches into the vagina and it feels like a bump. You will know when you find it.
You are the one sabotaging it
Women are aware of squirting, but they might be worried that they would pee instead or what their partner might say. That is why they may subconsciously sabotage their pleasure.
Pro tip: To make sure nothing “odd” comes out, pee before the act and focus on your orgasm no matter what you feel in your stomach. “For most women who ejaculate, orgasm and ejaculation happen at the same time,” says Nelson. “Some women can ejaculate before or after orgasm, or even ejaculate without having an orgasm—and, of course, lots of women orgasm without ejaculating—so it really varies from woman to woman, and in the end, it’s all normal.”
In case you are worried how much would come out, there isn’t a rule-of-thumb here. It might be just a few drops, but if you expect more, keep the towel close to you, just in case.
You can do it by yourself
To achieve this, all you need to know is to locate the G-spot. You don’t need a partner. “Stimulate the G-spot using a come-hither finger motion with one or two fingers,” Nelson says. “When you feel that telltale urge to pee, take whatever you’re using to touch yourself out so that the ejaculate can flow out when you squirt.”
And here are some suggestions: “The G-spot can best be reached by direct stimulation from a penis or a partner’s finger, fingering yourself, or using a toy designed for G-spot access.”
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