Over the past several decades, we’ve all see the rise in older women/younger men relationships, and since I like to give credit where credit is due – thank you, Demi! The excitement that comes from mixing ages, backgrounds,and interests is what usually draws older gals to date younger guys, and what makes this attraction mutual is the fact that younger guys grew up seeing powerful women everywhere. But let’s back up a little bit before we break down cougar dating into the smallest of pieces.
Most ‘cougars’ are women who have achieved above-average success in their careers. They single-handedly worked on closing the gender gap. They worked their way up when there weren’t that many female CEOs or women in positions of high authority. They are empowered, creative, born leaders, and don’t shy away from any challenge. Notwithstanding the fact that the gender gap still exists, they’ve managed to work their way to the top and stay there.
Source: New York Post
Men their own age may be threatened by this success, but the younger generation cubs have mothers, aunts, and sisters who are their equals across the board, and they’re used to being surrounded by the female figures of power. To them, a powerful woman is a familiar circumstance, and they’re drawn to what she can provide sexually, emotionally and romantically.
Presenting Yourself as the Approachable Older Woman
Older women who are interested in dating younger men often struggle with the several identities that reside inside their heads.
The identity that is used the most is that of a person of authority, given that we all spend most of our time at work. Being authoritative comes naturally to successful women, but the trick is not tocome off as a parent in the relationship.
Instead, let him take the lead from time to time. Allow him to plan some of the dates. Encourage his dreams and passions, even though you’re obviously not in the same place in your careers or in life. Let his energy and vitality come to life, and let him dominate when it comes to intimacy, at least before you take matters into your own hands and absolutely blow his mind.
Source: Cougar dating
Hopefully, you’ll both forget the age differenceover time and settle into your relationship as equal partners and lovers.
Being the Confident Young Man who is Taken Seriously
Younger men who find older woman provocative and exciting, and aren’t afraid to take on a challenge are faced with one simple dilemma – will she take me seriously? The formula for success here is simple – figure out what she takes the most pride in and compliment her on her accomplishments, be it her career, her kids or her charity work. Don’t be shy when it comes to showing your admiration for two simple reasons.
One, every person likes to be adored and loved no matter who they are, and two, just because she’s beautiful and successful doesn’t mean you’re not! Offer creative date ideas and compelling conversation topics, demonstrate your interest in her by sending her flowers, or send her cheeky messages in the middle of the day saying your pillow still smells like her.
Source: Today Show
The ultimate goal here is to find a mutually rewarding emotional experience that will honor both of your wishes and desires. Once the age question disappears without a trace, you’ll build a partnership based on joint goals and interests, and you’ll stop wondering ‘what’s wrong with you’ for being attracted to younger guys, or why you’re drawn to older women when there are perfectly cute girls your age all around you.
