Every holiday season, every publication imaginable puts together gift guides filled with shopping ideas for the festively confused. It has always surprised me that more gift guides for husbands and wives and boyfriends and girlfriends, don’t suggest sexy goodies. Lots of sex toys are inexpensive (under $40, with lots of them under $30) and unlike a hand lotion or yet another scented candle, they can last for years. I would not recommend that a sex toy be your only gift to a partner this year, as gifts like this can be seen more as “for us” rather than “for you.” But if you’re looking for a stocking stuffer or an extra something-something to go with another gift, I say go sexy!
And it should go without saying this slideshow is NSFW, although none of the images are explicit. Enjoy!
Massage Oil Candle
Many of us light candles when making “wuv” anyway. Why not double your pleasure with one that melts into massage oil you can use on your skin? Booty Parlor’s Don’t Stop Massage Candle, which I have used in the “sandalwood vanilla” scent, melts into a silky oil that warms up the skin and leaves you feeling soft. The candleholders’s spout makes it ideal for pouring directly onto the skin. It’s very romantic. Trust. [$36, Booty Parlor]
A “cute” vibrator for a perhaps-inexperienced lady who is just a little intimidated by sex toys. The Liptrick vibe is discreet but powerful. It’s perfect for someone hoping to explore her own clitoris and achieve a clitoral orgasm. (You can read my Sex Toy Test Drive of the Liptrick here!) [$26, Booty Parlor]
You naughty little minx! This Good Girl Bad Girl Feather Spanker is a black leather paddle on one and marabou feathers on the other. This is a great gift for someone who enjoys being spanked and is curious to try “instruments” but is freaked out by intense stuff like belts or riding crops. I’ve used this myself and I can confirm it hurts, but it doesn’t really hurt, if you get my drift! [$24, Booty Parlor]
Showing a little restraint can be difficult in bed. But not if you’re cuffed up, ha ha! These Booty Parlor wrist cuffs, which I have used, are made of black leatherette and held together by a chain. They’re adjustable, gentle against the skin, and can be unsnapped and removed by the “cuff-ee” quite easily. These aren’t the ideal toy for hardcore cuffing someone to a bedpost, for instance, but are fun for a flirty makeout romp. [$32, Booty Parlor]
Vibrating Cock Ring
I’ll be honest: the idea of using a cock ring (let alone a vibrating one) worried me. Yes, it worried me, a person without a penis. “Cock ring” sounded hardcore, rather than playful. But I have tried out the JimmyJane Iconic Ring and I can confirm that I was mistaken: it’s a fun, easy way to bring clitorial stimulation into penis-and-vagina sex. The vibrator is pretty powerful, so a girl could even just use it on herself in the shower, too! I am definitely a fan. [$35, JimmyJane]
These Pop Plugs silicone butt plugs are cute, easy-to-insert and remove, and boilable (which makes them easy to clean). I haven’t used them, but they’re a staff pick from Toys In Babeland, a sex-positive, queer-friendly and feminist sex toy shop. The three different sizes allow your to start out easy and increasingly expand your, um, self for maximum pleasure. [$15-$21 each, Babeland]
Ah, the elusive G-spot! Get to work finding it — and enjoying it —with this Orchid G vibrator. It can also be used on the clitoris, of course. I haven’t tried it, but Toys In Babeland calls the Orchid G “great for the tub.” [$22, Babeland]
My friends, the Layla Spot vibrator is my favorite vibe and definitely the one I would recommend if you’re looking to gift someone a toy she’ll treasure. This is a clitoral vibrator, but obviously you can poke around other body parts as well. The Layla Spot is ergonomically designed (which means it’s not awkward to handle under the sheets), washable, and comes in three speeds. Some vibrators are very expensive, but I promise you that $60 is more than a fair price for this excellent vibe. [$60, Babeland]
Why am I including a book, of all things, in a slideshow of sex toys? Because your biggest sex organ is the one between your ears, you boob! Frisky contributer Rachel Kramer Bussel is the go-to girl for all sexy stories and Passion, a collection of “erotic romances” she edited, looks hella fun. (For those kinkily-inclined, I personally recommend Rachel’s collection Spanked: Red Cheeked Erotica!) Reading sexy stories is the perfect way to get in the mood, especially for a solo session. [$10.17, Amazon]
If its good enough for Katherine Heigl in “The Ugly Truth,” it’s good enough for you. (I haven’t tried these, but they look fun!) [$99, Booty Parlor]