My best friend from college is a total copycat. Everything I do, she does a weird half-assed version of it a little bit later. It’s not just liking the same songs or TV shows, it’s that she shadows my life choices. She started to work in the same field and eventually moved to the same […]
My friend “Lana” recently got dumped by her boyfriend. I’m happy to lend an ear and be a shoulder to cry on, but now she wants to hang out all the time. However, I have a challenging job and family members with serious health issues, so honestly, I’m spread thin. How do I set some […]
I’m 31 years old and I’ve never been in relationship, nor have I ever been in love. I look at couples — married, cohabiting, dating — and I’m so envious of their ability to open up and create something with another person. Sometimes I feel like I’m too broken to even be considered by the universe […]
I’m 31 and live in Brooklyn. My problem: I keep attracting perfectly nice, smart, but utterly self-absorbed men. I’m a giver and a nurturer. I like listening to other people talk about their problems/interests/days/whatever. I like offering advice and think I’m good at it. I truly am happy to show my partners that I l […]
I’m discouraged about dating right now. I ended a five-year relationship when I moved to a new city four months ago. I now live close to my brother and I’m enjoying hanging out with him and his friends, but I’m struggling to find someone suitable to date. In the past couple of days, two guys […]
Like every other person who writes to you seeking wisdom, my story requires so much context and nuance I could write a novel but will try to spare you by giving the broad strokes. I also want to mention that simply having someone to write to about this is in and of itself therapeutic and […]
Should I tell my younger brother “Sean” that I think his new girlfriend “Jasmine” sucks? They’ve only been dating for a few months and I’ve met her three times. Each time we hung out, she doesn’t engage with me at all. When she wasn’t scrolling through her cell phone, she looked bored and uninterested in […]
My friend, who I’ll call Sophie, is driving me nuts. She’s a sweet, but also incredibly self-absorbed. I’m introverted, so I don’t mind being a sounding board, but she takes it to the next level. She spends almost every minute of every conversation talking about herself: her ex, the guys she’s dating now, her boss, […]
My best friend is in a new relationship. I’m really happy for her, but it seems like she ONLY wants to gab about this new fella, who I’ll call Louis. We talk about Louis for—I’m not kidding—hours on end. She doesn’t even ask about how my day’s going, she just talks endlessly about this guy: […]
