There’s a specific kind of silence that happens when you tell your friends about someone new. Someone picks up their drink, takes a long sip, and goes, “So… how did you guys meet again?” And you keep talking because if you stop, you’ll have to sit with what that pause actually meant. Red flags rarely […]
I’m 25 and for the last year and a half, I’ve been living in Canada (I’m American). I want to go to law school and practice in the US. Since law school is expensive, my parents have generously offered to let me move back home and live with them rent-free so I can save money. […]
There are many differences between men and women, both in the way we’re designed physically and the way we process things emotionally. And I’m sure you’ve noticed that the way we view relationships is also very different. The main problem in a lot of relationships is women don’t know what men want. While the differences […]
“I’m just not going to date for awhile,” is a frequent refrain I hear from my clients. There’s often a lack of enthusiasm and resolve in the delivery, signaling ambivalence. You’re probably familiar with the idea of burnout with respect to repetitive, boring jobs, or highly stressful work situations. Fatigue and a lack of interest […]
Breakups are brutal, and we rarely end a relationship with all of our feelings, regrets and issues off our chest. Instead, we’re left with a tornado of confusing emotions accumulating debris inside of us, potentially setting off some really bad decision-making. The post-breakup email would be at the top of that list. It’s totally understandable […]
What do you get when you fall in love? According the fan-freaking-tastic Dionne Warwick—and she should know from heartache—“You get enough tears to fill an ocean/That’s what you get for your devotion.” Sing it, sister! Sure, you get other stuff, too: hearts, cupids, hickeys, the fun stuff. But sometimes the bad outweighs the good, and […]
“I don’t think you’d make a very good ‘Bachelor,’” Jessie says to me, halfway through the second episode of the current season. (“The Bachelor” is appointment snuggle viewing in our marriage.) For some reason, it really bristles me. “What, you don’t think I could show a couple dozen ladies a good time?” I remember asking. […]
Men should pay for the first date. It is our responsibility, nay, birthright. It’s what we do instead of having to wear heels or beautifying face spackle. Women should offer to at least cover the tip, because that is polite. The next date should be her treat. Every subsequent date should be split. This is […]
You know the basic first-date don’ts by now: checking your phone, talking about politics, bringing up your ex, etc. But a new survey from Match.com revealed that these aren’t even the rudest things you can do on a date. The number one first-date killer? Lighting up a cigarette. According to the survey, 51 percent of […]
