Most single guys nowadays like casual sex that has no strings attached. They don’t like commitments and they would prefer one night stands whenever they crave for sex. We live in a world currently that doesn’t use sex as an indicator of a serious relationship. People meet in bars, clubs or online and find themselves having a one night stand.
So as you think of having a yummy time with a stranger, there are some rules that you should always abide by to enjoy the moment and to stay safe. Here are the golden rules:
1. Make your intentions very clear
Talk to your play partner honestly about your expectations for the night. Is it a one night stand only affair or there is something more? Is money involved or it’s free sex? This is where you can discuss the venue of the act.
2. Use protection
You don’t want to mess your entire life with just a few hours of pleasure. It’s always wise to carry condoms with you whenever you are going for a date or when you go clubbing. This will help you prevent STI’s and unwanted pregnancies. Don’t assume that your partner will carry them. And remember that these days the “All these condoms are too small/big for me”no longer holds true as anyone can find the right one.
3. Don’t drink too much
Having too much beer can bring embarrassing scenarios like puking on your date and other nasty behaviors. Being sober will help you make sound decisions which will not make you regret later and you will also have better performance in bed. If your partner is too drunk, let her rest on the couch and don’t have sex with her without her consent because this will make you a rapist!
4. Freshen up first
It’s good to shower first to get rid of the day’s sweats and feel fresh. You can even do it together to spice up the night. You don’t want bad smell interrupting your juicy moment. Being clean will even bring confidence when you get down.
5. Don’t inquire too much about personal life
Prying too much about someone’s personal life can make someone uncomfortable. Remember this is just a one night stand with no strings attached. So avoid asking about his family, work and even sending friend requests on social media.
6. Don’t expect a serious relationship after the night
It’s possible to confuse the closeness of that moment for something long term but this will hurt your feelings because the agenda was casual sex and nothing more. You might not even see this person again after this. Differentiate between sexual intimacies and emotional intimacy.
7. Be respectful
Although the intimacy is temporary, it’s good to show each other maximum respect. Offer your play partner water, snack or even coffee. Make sure he/she is very comfortable and is having a good time. So being rude and treating the other as a piece of trash is not ethical.
8. Be adventurous
You came with the main agenda of having sex. So try all those styles that you have always wanted to try. So enjoy every bit!
9. Don’t linger around afterward
After sex, it’s good to leave but if it’s not possible, you can stay for the night and leave in the morning. Don’t stick around looking at family photos or accessing the house décor. If it’s your house offer coffee and call a cab for your play partner.
10. Don’t be clingy after a nightstand
If you had agreed on a one time deal, it’s not right calling that person every time reminding them of how sweet the night was or making visits to their homes. This habit is so annoying especially if the intentions were made clear prior to the act.