Getting ready for a first date is never easy. Between the expectations, nervousness and excitement it usually doesn’t go as planned. In fact, a first date is often awkward and a bit uncomfortable. After all, you’re getting to know someone for the first time.
Instead of worrying about the possibility of the date going wrong, take a look at 15 easy ways you can make your first date less awkward and more of a success!
1. Do an activity you can enjoy together
Go with what you know. If you both like the outdoors, try going for a walk or biking through a nearby park together. Animal lovers? Maybe a trip to the zoo? After all, when was the last time you had a good excuse to go? Athletic? Maybe try taking a yoga class together or going bowling. Like to dine? Try wine tasting, but just make sure you don’t drink too much!
2. Wear something you’re comfortable in
Trying to pull off a new trend or wearing something you don’t feel confident in on a first date might make you feel more nervous. When it comes to dates, you’re always better under-dressed than over-dressed. Wearing jeans and a nice shirt is always a smart way to go. Heels or no heels, you’ll always look put-together.
3. Don’t go anywhere too fancy
Going to a fancy restaurant on a first date might make you feel like you have to be on your best behavior, making you tense up rather than just be yourself. Fancy means pricey, and pricey can make anyone on a date feel uncomfortable if they can’t afford it.
4. Stay away from loud places
A first date is all about getting acquainted with the other person and learning about them. However, you can’t learn much if you can’t hear what they are saying.
5. Steer clear of the movie theater
Taking in a new movie that you both want to see is always a good idea, but unless you’re going to do something before or after, it does not leave much room for conversation. Maybe try a cute place for dessert after the movie. This way you can indulge in something tasty and have something to talk about too.
6. Stay classy
There is a fine line between flirting with someone and propositioning them. If the other person on the date is not as sexually inclined, it might make them feel pressured or uncomfortable and ultimately uninterested. If they flirt with you too, maybe the date can turn into a passionate evening. Unless the intention of this date is to get a steady booty call, stick to flirting.
7. Never bring up past relationships
Everyone comes with baggage, but if you’re trying to start something new, the last thing your new date wants to hear about is whom you were with before. Keep your past love life out of the conversation. An ex is an ex for a reason, and now you’re on to someone new.
8. Instead of going to dinner, meet for a drink
Sitting with someone for a full meal that you may not exactly be interested in can be difficult. If you grab a drink and realize the chemistry is there, that can always lead to grabbing a bite to eat afterward. But if you realize the chemistry simply isn’t there, going for a drink makes the time together less awkward and allows you to leave and get back to the single world again.
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9. Be yourself, nobody is perfect
There is a difference between a job interview and a date. On an interview maybe it’s best to keep it professional, but when it comes to dating, it is OK to be quirky sometimes. After all, we’re all different and kooky in our own individual ways. Your true colors will come out eventually, so why hide them at the beginning?
10. Offer to split the bill
While chivalry may be dead, some men still feel they should pay for their date. Yet, with today’s economy the way that it is, not only is it unfair to have this expectation, it can make the date very awkward. Plus, you don’t want to feel obligated to go on a second date simply because he paid for the first one.
11. Don’t drink too much
No one likes a sloppy, drunken mess, especially not on a first date. The way you compose yourself can either make the date go smoothly or simply make it a mess. You want to walk out of the date looking forward to the next one, not looking forward to getting up close and personal with your toilet bowl.
12. Take a breather
Just because there is an awkward moment of silence here or there doesn’t mean the date is destined for doom. Sometimes silence can lead to a cute moment of eye contact or just a second to simply digest all you’ve spoken about. Would you rather take a minute to appreciate what your date had to say or listen to them chatting away with constant meaningless conversation?
13. Learn how to leave appropriately
If it is really that bad and you can’t fathom sitting at the table with your date for another minute, at least be respectful and leave courteously. Anyone can be nice if they are having fun. However, it is when someone becomes bored, uncomfortable, or angry that their true colors come out. Instead of being rude, simply excuse yourself and explain that you have to get home, thank them for the date and get back out into the single world.
14. Don’t talk badly about people
You never know who your date knows, so be careful who and what you talk about. Like they say, if you don’t have something nice to say, don’t say it at all. No one likes people who only have negative things to say.
15. Remember your manners
From the day you could talk, your parents probably taught you to always say please and thank you and treat others the way you wish to be treated. If you’re polite, you’ll be sure to leave a good impression. Whereas, if you’re not, your terrible manners may make your date feel embarrassed and uninterested in seeing you again.
Original by Carli Alexa Blau