There are many ways to feel more confident about your relationship, but here are 20 to get you started. Take the reins or the bull by the horns (or whatever else comes to mind), and start feeling more confident!
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- 1. Don’t snoop unless you really have good reason not to trust him
- 2. Give him a little friendly competition
- 3. Skip the games and be up-front
- 4. Be confident in yourself
- 5. Set some ground rules at the beginning
- 6. Don’t let the relationship progress too far without discussing major issues
- 7. Work out
- 8. Be affectionate
- 9. Avoid the temptation to endlessly analyze details
- 10. Similarly, avoid discussing relationship issues with paranoid girlfriends
- 11. Have lots of outside interests apart from the relationship
- 12. Present your best self to your partner and the world
- 13. Replace negative self-talk with affirmations
- 14. Don’t let yourself become dependent
- 15. Let go of emotional baggage
- 16. Be yourself
- 17. Similarly, let him be himself
- 18. Don’t compare your relationship to other people’s relationships
- 19. Memorize his credit card numbers
- 20. If all else fails, there’s always handcuffs
1. Don’t snoop unless you really have good reason not to trust him
Emails and voicemails taken out of context can cause a lot of unnecessary heartache.
2. Give him a little friendly competition
It doesn’t hurt for him to know that your tall, built, wildly successful artist friend from college periodically tells you you’re the one who got away and it’s the biggest regret of his life.
3. Skip the games and be up-front
If something’s bothering you, tell him directly. Guys don’t know what to make of it, and it shakes them up and gives you the upper hand.
4. Be confident in yourself
Finish your degree, apply for the better job, or write that novel. If you have a good sense of your own self-worth, you’ll be confident in your relationship.
5. Set some ground rules at the beginning
If you both agree that Friday is the night for hanging out with your friends separately, it won’t be a conflict when he wants to play poker or you want to take a short road trip with some girlfriends.
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6. Don’t let the relationship progress too far without discussing major issues
Having children, religious differences, whether either of you is willing to relocate for a job — these can be landmines in the future.
7. Work out
It reduces stress and releases endorphins and makes you hot.
8. Be affectionate
If he returns the affection, it’ll make you confident. If not, it’s time to find a new boyfriend who is affectionate.
9. Avoid the temptation to endlessly analyze details
If he wears the shirt his ex-girlfriend bought him, it may just mean that it’s the only clean white shirt he has that day.
10. Similarly, avoid discussing relationship issues with paranoid girlfriends
Paranoia is contagious, and before you know it, you’ll be worrying if your boyfriend is cheating, because your friend’s husband came home smelling of Angel when she only wears Poison.
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11. Have lots of outside interests apart from the relationship
When you start to feel insecure it helps to have something else to obsess over.
12. Present your best self to your partner and the world
Don’t always go out dressed in sweats and don’t sleep in ratty T-shirts every single night. The old adage is true: When you look good, you probably feel good.
13. Replace negative self-talk with affirmations
Every time you find yourself thinking, “I don’t deserve this guy,” change it to “I deserve a wonderful relationship and more.”
14. Don’t let yourself become dependent
Know how to unclog the sink and change a tire. Skills are confidence boosters.
15. Let go of emotional baggage
If your grandma told you your sister was the pretty one or your dance teacher said you weren’t graceful enough to be in the front row, it doesn’t mean your boyfriend thinks you’re homely or a klutz now.
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16. Be yourself
Trying to maintain a façade is exhausting and confidence-eroding.
17. Similarly, let him be himself
If he feels like you’re always picking at him, he’ll strike back and it won’t feel good.
18. Don’t compare your relationship to other people’s relationships
The grass isn’t always greener and you never know what’s going on behind closed doors.
19. Memorize his credit card numbers
You’ll always have the capacity for really serious revenge.
20. If all else fails, there’s always handcuffs
Original by Nancy Lichtenstein
