Inviting another person into the bedroom can be an exciting way to spice up a relationship. With our culture is opening up to different types of love and relationships, many couples out there are probably considering opening up their beds, be it for a night or for much longer.
If that sounds like you, here are some stories about what might happen after. Some are good, some are bad, but all of them could help you navigate your experience!
1. It collapsed completely. Shattered the third party, ended our 15-year relationship. Took my partner down dark alleys in her psyche that should’ve been avoided. Seemed like a great idea at the time, though. (refugefirstmate)
2. A long discussion with rules and boundaries figured out and agreed upon before hand goes a long way. I have been in several relationships where a third was added for both sex and poly emotional/sexual commitments. It’s just like any other experience with someone else be honest and communicate and things can go smoothly. Although just like dating there will be crazies be warned. (fathervoodoo)
3. For us it was amazing. I’d dabbled in poly relationships prior to ours because I’m very sexually adventurous and tend to have a very high sex drive, and my partner at the time thought it was a good idea. Turns out it wasn’t a good idea for us and that relationship didn’t work.Fast forward to today, I’m with someone new and we both seem to prefer monogamy, but I’m definitely missing some of the “adventure” of multiple partners. Long story short, we were out with a bunch of people and got super drunk and ended up giving a friend of a friend “a place to crash for the night.” The experience was so enjoyable for all involved that we sort of made it a regular thing and that friend of a friend has come back over for repeat performances. My SO and I both enjoy the experience and since we were playing together as a couple, a lot of the feelings of jealousy that might normally happen with multiple partners is diffused significantly. (Flowsephine)
4. TL;DR it ruined my relationship.Was dating a younger chick back in college, when we started dating she was a virgin so after first time she became horny as hell. She really got into filming us as well. One time she invited her friend over to my place to hang out with us. She had the idea of letting her friend film us, but she didn’t tell her yet. So we get pretty tipsy and she tells her friend about the idea her friend giggles and agrees. We go into the room and camera didn’t even come into equation, once we all started undressing it was pretty much on. I loved it, even though I did feel slightly dirty after. Her friend suggested we do it again the next day, but my gf just kept on crying. We broke up pretty shortly after. (reptile83)
5. I was not in the relationship, but I was the third person in the threesome. It was my best friend, her husband, and me.They are now in the process of divorce. After several events between the three of us, they decided to open their relationship up more and date around. We had a sort of swinger party once, where I ended up with her hubby and she ended up with the guy I’m currently dating. The end of the tale is, he fell in love with some other woman and kicked my best friend and their two kids out. I got the happily ever after, and I still feel guilty for being the beginning of the end. (RsTheHotOne)
6. I would imagine if its something that is talked about and everyone has a mutual understanding it would fine but my only experience was a spontaneous threesome.Movie night with my girlfriend and her roommate came home saw the movie and decided to join us. One thing led to another and then no one was watching the movie. It was weird between all three of us from then on.The next day we did the whole “Hey last night was crazy huh?” but it was weird. Never happened again. GF and I were fine though we both looked back at it as just one crazy night. (SirBigMan)
7. Yeah it was all fine and dandy until about midway through they started diddling. i just remember seeing red, grabbing my clothes and walking out. Tainted the relationship, and the rest of it was filled with insecurity issues and huge blow out fights. Lesson learned.(shakethemdreads)
8. I have participated in several threesomes with my wife and other guys. Since there have been several, you can expect that, overall, things have gone pretty well (yeah, I love doing this).The second one we ever had led to some hurt feelings on my part, as she pretty much ignored me completely. However, we talked it out, she hadn’t intended to do so, and it was never again an issue. Pro tip: if you are considering a threesome, talk about it first. Discuss any ground rules you may have. Only do things that both of you agree upon. Communicate, and you have a vastly better chance of being fine. Or don’t, and prepare for a possibly ruined relationship. (alittlebirdy1)
9. Passed out drunk at a party in my girlfriends bed. Woke up to her roommate massaging my nether region with her hand. Still somewhat inebriated, I returned the favor by massaging her private bits with my hand. Girlfriend comes in and it was amazing up until the point her roommate went to massage my nether region with her mouth in which my girlfriend freaked out stating that was crossing the line whereas intercourse was not an issue. The next week was awkward and we ended up breaking up because of it. (papichino)
10. Went straight downhill. Non stop, ” Why don’t you go f*** her again!” or ” You love her more than me.” Threesomes are fun, but never do them when you are dating, ruins any kind of future with your SO then on. (DivineLlama)
11. Broke up with my boyfriend 15 minutes later. Not a good experience. (morbidius)
12. I had a threesome with my SO AND my ex for my girlfriend’s birthday. Our relationship was fine after. She sometimes points out girls she’d like to have threesomes with. (LegendOfDylan)
13. It was uncomfortable. He was clearly more into her than me. A couple weeks later he cheated on me with her and I didn’t find out for a month or so. So that ended. Part of the problem was that I was dating my best friend and we really weren’t right for each other in that sense. It worked out though, that was almost two years ago and we are still best friends. I am currently typing this from his place where she lives as well. They have been together ever since all that and seem to be quite fond of each other. Its funny because we all went to high school together and I always had a crush on her. All in all it worked out. At the time I was extremely hurt but the situation led me to another city where I met my current boyfriend and he is the best partner I have ever had, we had our one year anniversary this January. I’m thinking of keeping him for good. It all worked out great and I’m glad I still have my best friend. (SatanMD)
14. It was okay after the first time, but ended in a meltdown after the second time and almost ended the relationship. Looking back, this would have been better, but hey…(pacificnwbro)
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Original by Hannah Briggs
