You’re headed to your cousin’s wedding, and on the invite, it says you can bring a plus one. Yes!! But, there’s one catch. You’re not seeing anyone right now who you’d be happy to take. That’s okay, though, because here are some tips to find a date for the wedding.
You don’t want any solo moments or family members wondering why you’re coming to the wedding on your own again, so it’s time to look for someone to take.
If you haven’t got a long list of desirable guys that will make your family think “great catch, girl!” then it’s time to look outside of the contacts on your phone.
Look to your circle of friends
If you’re going to your cousin’s wedding, then it will be a different atmosphere for a close friend’s special day. You don’t have to bring someone you have a thing for or someone you fancy, and your +1 can be a person from your current circle of friends.
A great choice is a friend who’s the life and soul of the party. They’ll be a great hit with everyone there.
Consider an ex-boyfriend
If you have an ex who might be available to go with and your relationship with them was healthy, then it’ll be fun to go on a last-minute wedding date.
You might have a plan to rekindle the relationship, or you might miss him. Whatever the reason, it makes sense to have a “steady Eddy” who you know will be there for you and won’t end up starting a fight.
What you don’t want to do, however, is invite that guy who ghosted you after seeing him for a while or even choose the guy you used to hook up with. You want to have a good time when you go.
Head to online dating sites
This isn’t the time for drunkenly reactivating Tinder and frivolously swiping left and right in the hopes that one of those handsome guys messages you first. They never do. Plus, you’re not the Tinder kind of girl. Are you seriously going to ever find a decent date on that app?
Instead, try eHarmony or Match. They are two solid online dating sites that have lots of different types of men, and you’re bound to find one half-decent one who you can get to know before the big day. Go for a coffee first, though, so you know he isn’t going to be a total psycho.
Hire a male escort
If you’re too damn busy to even think about online dating, there is no way you’re asking the bride and groom, and you have too many things right now to deal with, then why not hire a male escort. They can go with you on a date for any occasion.
Companies like Gentlemen4hire have several men on their website who can be hired to go out on dates with women, offering the gentleman experience: with great conversation and being treated as a lady should. If you want someone who is going to show you up, be polite, and will chat with your family and show you a great time, then look through the website.
Invite your work boyfriend
You’ve got chemistry with this guy at work, and you get on well, but you know that a relationship between you two is never going to happen. Ask him to come to the wedding as your plus one.
At least you’ll know you can spend some time with someone who will eat, drink, dance, and chat with you without everything feeling awkward. You never know, it might bring you both closer together.
Ask the bride and groom
If there is absolutely no one you can ask to be your date, there is the unpopular choice of asking the bride and groom if they know someone. It’s your cousin getting married, and while you do get along, it’s not a given that you’ll like most of the people they know.
They don’t need to make it visible, though. Just ask them to introduce you to him before the actual day so that you can get to know him first. On the day, if you’re both happy, then sit next to each other and have a good time.
Take another single person
You head out in search of an ideal date, but why not just go with another single person who is going to the same wedding. Arrange to meet them at the venue and head in together. It doesn’t matter if they’re one of your other cousins or a friend of the family, at least it will be someone to go with and enjoy the time you spend together.
Your best friend
If you’re a little on the shy side and haven’t managed to sort anything yet, why not take your best wing woman? That girl who encourages you to be the person you want to be, and when you’re with her, you always feel empowered.
It’s not going to bother her that she didn’t get invited to the wedding because it’s your cousin who’s getting married and not one of your close friends (no awkward moments). So, go ahead and ask her to be your plus one.
Don’t find a date
It’s lovely that the bride and groom wrote “+1” on your invite, but that doesn’t mean you have to take one. Just tell your cousin that you won’t be needing the plus one, and she might want to give it to someone else on the guest list.
Even though there are going to be many couple things on the day there will be lots of single people there too, so you won’t be the only one. And you never know, there might be a cute single guy there who you hit it off with.
There are many different ways to find a date for a wedding. Some of them will be suited to more extroverted individuals, and you might have crossed one or two of them off the list already.
Whatever direction you choose, stick with it, and be happy with your decision. Above all else, have fun on the big day: weddings are days of celebration and joy.