There’s a reason they say that sex sells. It’s supposed to be exciting, fun, and energizing. If it’s become a ho-hum routine, though, it takes some fun out of life and can put your relationship in the slow lane too.

The experience of fantastic sex brings couples closer. If you need to put some zing back into your bed but don’t know how to spice up your sex life, try these hot ways to mix things up.

Ways to Spice Up Your Sex Life

Want a more varied and fun sex life but don’t want to risk your relationship by cheating on your partner? Try these alternatives.

1. Embrace Your Voyeur Side

Sex begets sex, and one of the best ways to get in the mood is by watching someone else have sex. We’re not talking about peeping on your neighbors. Instead, try watching porn as part of your foreplay.

Take turns with your partner so you can each choose the type of porn you like. It’s a great way to learn your partner’s fantasies while getting turned on and getting some inspiration.

2. Tell a Sexy Story

If the sex life of partner A and partner B is getting dull, why not by someone else? Sexy role play is a great way to spice things up and make it feel like you’re both having a fun new experience.

Make sure the role play is something you’re both into, though. If one partner wants to try S & M but the other isn’t on board, you may open the door to more problems. Try brainstorming ideas together or noting what types of porn your partner likes.

3. Try Swinging

It’s not always enough to pretend to be someone else. If you and your partner both agree to it, swinging can be a hot way to bring more variety into your bedroom.

Before your mind goes to 1970’s key parties, you need to find out more about your options. Whether you want to try group sex or just switch partners with another couple, there’s a place for you.

4. Dangle the Carrot

We’ve all noticed that the more turned on you are, the better the sex will be. What better way to turn on your partner than to make them spend all day fantasizing.

Tex your partner sexy messages throughout the day. Maybe it’s a description of what you want to do them or an enticing picture.

5. Experiment Solo

Sometimes our partners don’t know how to give us what we want because we don’t know what we want either. That’s where solo work comes in: masturbate with a purpose.

This is especially important for women, whose anatomy is more complex than men’s. Experiment with yourself and find out your favorite motions, fantasies, and tempos. Bring that knowledge into the bedroom and help your partner blow your mind.

The Sex Life You Deserve

There’s a stereotype that the longer you’re in a relationship, the more boring your sex life gets. In reality, it should be the opposite. As you get more comfortable with each other, use that comfort as an opportunity to indulge your fantasies and try new things.

For more ideas for how to spice up your sex life, check out the other tips on our sex and love blog.