Think “winning” an argument means always being right? … WRONG!
Want to never “lose” another argument ever again? I’ve discovered that reconnecting to your personal purpose when conflict crops up is the secret to understanding how to rise above the energy of a fight, and bring about a win-win resolution. I’ve certainly had my share of fights in my life. Whether with family, colleagues, friends, or a significant other, fighting always seemed inevitable. After struggling with this for far too many years, I finally learned how to step out of the energy-sapping cycle of fighting and into the peace that comes along with finding your purpose in communicating. I started by asking myself the question, “What is my purpose in wanting to communicate with this other person?”
Some common themes for me are:
- To connect
- To feel understood
- To explain
Do any of these resonate with you?
So, how do we connect with someone, feel understood, and explain ourselves in a peaceful way, while also avoiding conflict and fighting?
First, ask yourself these questions, either before you choose to engage in an argument, or if you’re already in the thick of one:
- What issue of mine is showing up in this conflict that I need to take responsibility for?
- Am I assigning judgment/blame to myself or the other person in a hardcore way?
- Does this same issue or conflict keep showing up for me over and over again?
Original by: YourTango.com