“I’m queer. I have a lot of really wonderful friends who are of very different sexes and genders. I am very much in love with no one in particular. I’ve been trying to figure out relationships, you know? I don’t know if it’s responsible for kids of my age to be so aggressively pursuing monogamous binds, because I don’t think we’re ready for them. The romanticism within our culture dictates that that’s what you’re supposed to be looking for. Then [when] we find what we think is love — even if it is love — we do not yet have the tools. I do feel that it’s possible to be at this age unintentionally hurtful, just by being irresponsible — which is fine. I’m super down with being irresponsible. I’m just trying to make sure my lack of responsibility no longer hurts people. That’s where I’m at in the boyfriend/girlfriend/zefriend type of question.”
One thing I love about actor Ezra Miller — who blew my mind in “We Need To Talk About Kevin” — is that he’s such a lucid stoner. And at such a young age! This statement — given to Out magazine — is really quite smart and thoughtful, and it’s awesome to see a 19-year-old dude be so mindful of the way his innate youthful selfishness affects others. If only the 30-something dudes I find myself dating would do the same! Miller doesn’t get any deeper into explaining his “queerness,” but it seems like he’s disinterested in defining his sexuality on narrow terms. Good for him!
Original by Amelia McDonell-Parry @xoamelia
