When friend had mentioned she’d been to sex parties, I knew I wanted to go, too. Could she bring me along next time, if it wouldn’t be too weird? As it turns out, she would soon be hosting one at her very own house. Sure enough, an invitation came in my email a few days […]
Okay, so I would never claim to have it all figured out, but I can say that I’m pretty good at solving other people’s problems. That’s always the way, isn’t it? My friends come to me for love and support and advice, and I can usually give them a little nugget or two of truthy, […]
UPDATE, 7/14/14: Conor Oberst’s accuser, Joanie Faircloth, released a statement today admitting her accusations were “100 percent false.” The recent rape allegations against Conor Oberst of the band Bright Eyes hit really, uncomfortably close to home for me. In the past few weeks, it’s come to light that an anonymous xoJane commenter confessed in a comment […]
If you have been in a one mile radius of me anytime in the past few weeks, you have probably heard me tell you all about how I love “Call The Midwife,” mention I’m going home to watch “Call The Midwife,” or suggest you watch “Call The Midwife.” That is because — yup — I […]
Being a lady of the darkness is hard enough as it is. You’re constantly gawked at by more colorful humans, and the normals in your office think you’re a misery girl who hates everything and everyone. It takes a whole lot of courage to stand out and be the true gothic princess you are in […]
I’ve never been afraid to ask for what I want in bed. The idea that some women can’t ask for what they want, or don’t know what they want in the first place, is foreign to me. However, I’m well-aware that I may not be in the majority here. Guys have told me other women […]
My boyfriend Nick and I have been together for almost 10 years, but that doesn’t mean I’ve stopped looking for love advice or claim to know any secrets. To the contrary, I’m constantly on the hunt for inspiration, insight, and practical wisdom. I love asking long-term couples how they’ve managed to stay together for so […]
I’m 30 years old and people –including those who are much younger – are calling me “cute” (as in like a puppy, not hey-baby-you’re-cute). Even though it may be better than being called old and haggard, it still annoys the bejeezus out of me. I’m an adult! There seems to be no way to respond without sounding like a […]
When I think of arranged marriages, I think of Ever After: A Cinderella Story starring Drew Barrymore, whose character almost couldn’t be with the man she loved because he was forced to marry a princess his parents chose for him. I wouldn’t be able to marry someone I didn’t know, didn’t have a connection with, […]
