I’ve never been afraid to ask for what I want in bed. I guess because during my teenage years I figured out I was/am a perv and I just owned it. But in my decade-plus of hooking up with dudes, I’ve come to see being clear about what I want is a bit rare: Guys […]
I’m going to come right out and cop to this—I have been dumped more times than I can count. You’d think that after the 5,234th time, I’d be a tad more resilient, but nah. I have mourned certain dead relationships for longer than they went on in the first place and made an idiot of […]
It’s time to end the criminalization of HIV in America. That’s precisely what Democratic presidential frontrunner Hillary Clinton argued in a speech given at the “HIV Is Not a Crime” convention, held in Huntsville, Alabama earlier this month. In her address, she pledged to “enforce civil rights laws to fight HIV-related discrimination, stigma, and injustice,” […]
Somehow I missed the first three seasons of “RuPaul’s Drag Race” during their television run. But the show found its way to me thanks to the magic of Netflix live streaming. Now that I’ve watched all three seasons consecutively, I think this reality TV diamond in the rough may be my most favoritest of all time. […]
I am in an open marriage. I know what you are probably thinking because, the first time a friend said this to me, I quickly felt myself growing judge-y. My knee-jerk thought was, She’s just doing this to please her husband. How sad. And then, Oh, they must want raise their kids commune-style. Can’t relate. […]
Oh god, mom, he broke up with me!” I blubbered over the phone, I was crying so hard my face resembled a marshmallow. I had decided to stay in bed for two days and was starting to become very ripe and slightly unhinged. Needless to say I was not taking this well at all. “Should […]
Last week, every sex worker’s nightmare happened to me: a guy in one of my classes loudly asked, “So, what DO you do for work?,” clearly hoping that it would embarrass me. Instead, it enraged me. I made sure my reply was loud enough that every guy in the classroom could hear me and I […]
We’ve all been there: You meet someone where the chemistry is so on point that you can’t seem to resist getting into the tangled web that is friends with benefits. You know s/he’s wrong for you and you both know that a relationship is not going to be your happy ending. In fact, you may […]
Art comes in many forms and sometimes people don’t always “get it.” But for University of Buffalo art student Ashley Powell, the point was to get a reaction when she posted “White Only” and “Black Only” signs over the drinking fountains in the school’s Clemens Hall. The Spectrum, an independent student publication at UB, reported that Powell admitted to posting […]
