In a recent piece on The Good Men Project about the double standard regarding adultery, Tom Matlack asks, “When was the last time a woman got dragged through the mud for cheating?” I offer a slightly different question: When was the last time a woman was exposed for cheating—and the story wasn’t crafted around a […]
“You didn’t finish, did you?” he asked. “No,” I said. I’ve lied before, but I’m trying to wean myself away from it. Lying only adds a layer of mental unease to any lingering physical dissatisfaction I might be feeling, and assuaging false pride rarely seems like a good deal. The dishonesty (to myself) leaves a […]
When I was getting clean and sober in a Twelve Step program many years ago, there was one phrase from the literature that always resonated with me. We addicts have been, the book said, the “architects of our own adversity.” Yes, I thought the first time I read that. It’s time to stop blaming others […]
