Every man should experience a bi-threeway in their lifetime because time is too short to allow our antiquated ideas of sexuality to bind us. The way our society has viewed gender, sexuality, and the expression of how we see both has never been more progressive. Finally we are beginning to understand that who we are attracted to romantically may not always sync up with what our minds tell us turns us on. Meaning, it’s not that uncommon for a straight guy to get his dick sucked by another guy — and it doesn’t mean he needs to start dating men to enjoy it.
Unsurprisingly, the idea that if a man touches another man he is automatically gay has been ingrained in the very fabric of our society. Even bisexual porn is rarely depicted in the way that allows for an open discussion on bisexuality. What most men fail to realize is that bisexual porn excludes women from the conversation, owing to the fact that it strictly caters to the male gaze.
According to Bi: Notes for a Bisexual Revolution, author Shiri Eisner elaborates on why female-female porn is labeled as “lesbian porn” instead of “bisexual.” “Female bisexuality in mainstream porn is presented as a sort of ‘foreplay,’ something that women only do when there is no penis around.” When women are on camera together, they’re instantly labeled lesbians instead of bisexual. That way, it is easier for men to place their sexuality into understanding why they’re getting off to it. The strict ways we define porn subconsciously teach us our sexual expression in society. We start to learn the false binaries of sexuality the moment we become aware of our desires.
Source: Elite Daily
Although this may seem insignificant, understanding why bisexual porn is hindering men’s openness in the bedroom is key. When you’re presented with a solitary understanding on how a bi threesome would work, you begin to only frame your fantasies around that. Men are not as sexually open because the porn community consistently presents them with rigid presentations of male sexual expression. Can you imagine James Deen getting his cock sucked on camera? Probably not, but you sure as hell can bet that his female scene partners have been expected to eat a woman out every once in awhile.
Alfred Charles Kinsey was a sexologist who first popularized the idea that sexuality is a spectrum all the way back in 1947. By interviewing thousands of men and women, he began to see varied results in their sexual histories. People were secretive about their same-sex trysts long before my friends were whispering them to me as we stood in line for The Keg. He invented the “Kinsey Scale,” which explained that there was an entire spectrum of sexualities between “heterosexual,” and “homosexual,” and that more often than not, his subjects admitted to having same-sex relations. Even though we’re well over 60 years later, straight men still can’t seem to wrap their minds around the idea that another guy can touch his dick and he can still be straight. I’m sure you’ve heard the expression “guys give better head because they know what they’re doing,” and it’s probably because — big surprise! — it’s true. If you’re a straight man, start challenging what you’ve been taught for your entire life. Start scoping out some male-male-female bi porn, see if it begins to get you going.
Original by Ask Men
