I’m really supportive of sexual experimentation…for other people. I want everyone to have awesome sex, as often as they want, with as many people as they want, doing the things they want. In my own personal life, though? I’m pretty unadventurous (ie, boring). This extends way beyond my sex life too – I haven’t switched […]
You never need an elaborate explanation to turn down sex. “I’m not in the mood” or “I don’t want to” are perfectly acceptable — no further details necessary. But usually there’s a more specific reason we don’t want to hit it. Often it has nothing to do with you and your inherent sexiness. Like, we […]
I’m so sick of men saying that all you need to get laid is “to be a woman.” If that were truly the case, would all women, everywhere, be getting laid at all times whenever and however they want? Yes. Does that actually happen in the real world? No. When it comes to this particular […]
Women get a bad rap when it comes to initiating sex, and while it’s true that being assertive about asking for what we want can be tough for some of us, there are about a million different situations that might inspire us to throw a man on the bed and tell him what’s up. We don’t […]
Have you ever noticed that most of your traditional efforts to catch a guy’s interest (high heels, red lipstick, and such) go unnoticed, but on the day you drag yourself to the drug store for cold medicine, in pajamas, with unwashed hair and a crusty nose, you have to swat potential suitors away with a stick? One […]
We’ve all been awkwardly interrupted during sex at some point. It’s just unavoidable. Sometimes the circumstances are more extreme (hoodlums peeing on the windshield while we’re giving head in the back seat of a car), but more often, the culprits of coitus interruptus are our modern day gadgets and gizmos. Technology is supposed to be […]
Guys, let’s talk foreplay. We’ve recently realized that there are two different kinds pre-sex prep. There’s foreplay — the standard kissing and licking and touching that you know and do so well — that prepares our bodies for sex. And then there’s the foreplay BEFORE the foreplay — the intense eye contact you make for no […]
There are many reasons why men don’t necessarily know what women really like in bed. The most important: a lack of access to real information. Movies oversimplify sex by not really showing what happens in the sack, pornography is just, well, pornography, and “Talk Sex With Sue Johanson” is off the air. Aside from that, […]
At the age of three, I already didn’t want to be a girl. I saw from watching my mom what it was like to be a grown-up girl and it didn’t look good. Here are the few memories from childhood that I hadn’t managed to suppress: We came home once to find our apartment ransacked by […]
