I am greedy. I’m a greedy person. There, I said it. It was drilled into my head early in life that this was one of the most reprehensible things I could possibly be, besides maybe a liar. After all, to be greedy was to be an especially vile form of selfish, which I also was not supposed to be. For most […]
I woke up one morning last week to my Twitter in an uproar. That’s reasonably common in my world, as many of the people I follow are marginalized and there’s a lot to be angry about. Turns out that the FBI has seized MyRedbook, a California site where masseuses and escorts could advertise for clients […]
When it comes to pride, we’re often told that it goeth before a fall. But that lends an implication of sorts that pride causeth the fall, which is hardly the case. Falls happen for any number of reasons, far too often for reasons beyond our control. And from that lens, when things are spiraling out […]
It’s hard out there for a bisexual. I think it’s pretty easy to pinpoint why that is, but for simplicity’s sake, I’ll speak solely on female bisexuality. Bisexuality isn’t taken seriously. In media, it’s underrepresented and under-addressed and, for most of TV’s history, just a way to get through Sweeps Week (remember when Marisa gave […]
When Beyonce’s “If I Were a Boy” came out, it really resonated with me. One, because I am super gay and Beyonce butching it up in a police uniform was kind of like a dream come true. But also because I had tried my hand at dating boys, thought they were total jerks, and knew […]
Some might argue that the music is the most important part of a wedding reception. After all, the location could be perfect; the venue could be beautiful; and the food could be delicious, but all of that will fade into the background if the dance floor is empty. The right music gets you and your […]
The newest log to stoke the fires of the hyped-up “Mommy Wars,” is an xoJane essay that got extra legs when it was recently republished over at TIME.com. Liz Pardue Schultz’s piece “Being a Stay-at-Home Mother Is Not a Job,” compares being a stay-at-home mom to a hobby, like camping, throwing a party for a […]
I’ve been dating my boyfriend—let’s call him Smokey—for over two years. I love him very much, but there’s one problem that you’ve probably already guessed: he’s a smoker. He was a smoker when we got together, which I told him was a dealbreaker, but he assured me that he was quitting and begged me to […]
Dear Missionary Position, You don’t get any respect. People think you’re old-fashioned, or bland or submissive. The other positions are more popular than you are. Flashy pornos feature kinkier ways to go at it, and popular magazines feature sex positions that would make a carnie contortionist reach for the Ben Gay. Some of those positions […]
