Tag: hooking up

BDSM, Cuckholding & A Spunky Take On Hot Potato: Where Do You Draw The Line Between Kinky And Just Plain Nasty?

About three weeks ago, a very attractive man in his 30s sent me a message on Plenty of Fish, where I’d had recently created a dating profile, mostly for writing inspiration, but also with the hopes that I’d find a cool guy to hang out with upon my return to New York from traveling. Things seemed […]

How To Kiss Well

I am an aficionado of the kiss. No other act is so simple and so intimate. The light suction, the flick of the lip, the playful nibble, the deep advance and retreat of the tongue—a good kiss is like jazz, an improvisation of melodies, flirtatious staccatos, and passionate brassy crescendos. A good kiss is a […]

Dating Don’ts: Is It A Booty Call Or Nah?

We’ve all been there. Someone you were hot and heavy with will suddenly disappear, as if wiped from this earth, only to reappear in the form of a typo-laden text message one night while you’re doing a face mask in your sweatpants. Like that mosquito that you try endlessly to kill before going to sleep, […]

True Story: I Only Use The Pullout Method

According to New York magazine, sexually active hetero women in their 20s and 30s are heretofore dubbed the “pullout generation.” We’ve earned this moniker because, for various reasons, we’ve turned up our noses at “conventional forms of birth control,” from the the Pill to condoms, and started relying on the withdrawal method to avoid pregnancy. The […]

The Thing About Casual Sex

It’s a pretty common misunderstanding to believe that hooking up and happiness go hand in hand. In fact, it can often be the opposite. You’d definitely be forgiven for thinking that having casual sex is all about pleasure. That must mean it’s good for you. It feels good and releases plenty of endorphins into your […]

Dater X: 10 Red Flags & Warning Signs That I Look For When I’m Dating

Every new relationship comes with its own bag of possibilities and pitfalls. We approach new romance hopefully, keeping our eyes peeled for warning signs and red flags that might tip us off about a character flaw or mismatch, and determine an outcome accordingly. But everybody’s past is different, and depending on what you want and need […]