Losing your virginity is a big deal. I remember my first time like it was yesterday. Not only was it painful the first time, but it hurt like hell a few times after that. I soon realized that it was not at all like how the movies portrayed it to be. No matter how old […]
Many women aren’t aware that just as there are emotional stages of acceptance of death, there are emotional stages of acceptance of sex. When men lose their virginity, they experience a remarkably similar set of emotions. Here’s a look at the various stages that men go through when losing their virginity, drawing on my own […]
It’s time again for “Shortcuts,” wherein I answer readers’ letters in two sentences or less. Sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great, being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go. Today we discuss the burden of virginity, busybody […]
In some cultures, the word “hymen” could use a little re-branding — so the Swedish Association for Sexual Education is renaming it! The Nordic org is publishing literature in English, Arabic and Sorani Kurdish that refers to that little piece of tissue as the “vaginal crown” or “vaginal corona” and provides diagrams and info explaining […]
Dating, though full of ups and downs and highs and lows, is something that most of us do to find that special person who thinks you’re a lovely creature even after oral surgery, when your face is swollen and you’re drooling on the pillowcase every night for a week. When dating leads to marriage, some […]
Me: I’m sorry! It’s just not going in! Him: Don’t worry – we can always try later… Me: I’m really sorry! I’m just so scared! (Sobbing. Tearful search for bra.) What if this never works? That was me and my now-fiancé during one of many abortive attempts to have sex for the first time. For […]
What does a woman’s past sexual experience have to do with her teaching skills? Just about everything! That’s why the education department in Sao Paolo, Brazil gets all up in the ladybusiness of potential female employees. According to women’s rights activists in Brazil, as cited by The Washington Post, women are required to prove their […]
I’m just going to say it: a 10-year-old girl making an abstinence pledge to her dying father on his hospital bed is all kinds of emotionally manipulative. I thought this YouTube video would be a touching, if extremely sad, occasion for Johnny, a gravely ill father, and his 10-year-old daughter, Nakeol. Gathered by family, they […]
Coming of age, regardless of sexual orientation, is a mess. It’s like an awkward pubescent choose-your-own-adventure book that you are constantly cheating at, reading ahead or skipping back, to try and reach some kind of conclusion in the least traumatizing way. You string together little landmarks in your life, some horrifying and some empowering, to […]
