When I was getting clean and sober in a Twelve Step program many years ago, there was one phrase from the literature that always resonated with me. We addicts have been, the book said, the “architects of our own adversity.” Yes, I thought the first time I read that. It’s time to stop blaming others […]
In case my last name doesn’t make it obvious enough, I’m Asian. At the same time, as some of my friends have noticed, my last few girlfriends have all been decidedly not Asian. To their mock-raised eyebrows, my response is, “I’m sorry. It’s not my fault.” Okay, okay, I know what they’re thinking: As an […]
The e-mail simply read: I’ll pay you $350. $350!? I lay down and thought about this. I thought about a three, a five and a zero. How pretty they looked altogether, no periods to dash out the mass. How nice they would look in my empty piggy bank. I thought about what was being asked […]
Think of the best first date you ever went on. Got it? Okay, what did you do immediately afterwards? If you’re like some women I’ve been out with, you called up your best friend and gushed all about the date. You even posted a not-so-subtle status update on Facebook. Something along the lines of, “Just had […]
Hugo’s piece was originally published at the Good Men Project Magazine. Both at the Good Men Project and at my own blog, my most popular posts in terms of page-views are invariably those that focus on one particularly controversial subject: older men and younger women. (Here’s “What Young Women Are Really Looking For From Older […]
Today, December 7th, marks the one-year anniversary of my first date with Melissa. I wish I could say that I knew from our very first date that this was going to be something special. That the moment I saw her, I was smitten. That our first date was the most amazing date I’d ever been […]
