When I told my best friend I was happy for her because she was pregnant, it couldn’t have been further from the truth. The truth was that her announcement ruined my day, my week and my self-esteem. It added pressure to my already pressurized mid-30s brain and kept me awake at night with images of […]
Ugh, decisions. Some big choices are simple even though they come with high stakes, because somehow you just know exactly what move is right for you. You might even feel like you’ve known the right answer all your life. If you’ve ever had that experience, it just makes the tough decisions that much more frustrating, because you […]
Conventional wisdom tells you that, in a relationship, the more sex you’re having, the happier you are. But, as reported by The Science Of Us, that’s not necessarily the case. Researchers at Carnegie Mellon took a group of heterosexual couples and asked some of them to simply have more sex, while the others received no […]
I’m all about periodic quality weekend escapes (and I think everyone should be!), but there is a distinct art to them — getting out of town is only half the battle. Leaving your home base brings no guarantee you’ll feel any calmer or more refreshed than you do when you’re caught up in the rat […]
Why is it that life always reaches its most stressful points at the least convenient times? Is that some kind of rule or something? I always find myself at my most overwhelmed when I’m in the middle of an important work assignment, or in a crowded subway car, or some other situation when I can’t […]
Remember when you were in middle school and your new future BFF sort of just appeared next to you in your third period science class, and you were suddenly joined at the hip for the next five years without even realizing what was happening? Weren’t those days easy? Once we’re older and out in the […]
A little over a year ago, my dad died very unexpectedly, something I’ve written about a lot on this site. As time has gone on, the nature of my grief has evolved (it still is), and I feel that so much has changed since that day in August since I first received a slew of […]
We always remember to brush the teeth, get some sleep or change into another pair of jeans before going somewhere. However, such important but often neglected rules of self-care somehow go past our attention. Taking care of oneself means observing and regulating one’s needs, feelings, urges and calibrating them with actions, adjusting behavior according to […]
“Some women are just happier in a relationship.” As my shrink said this, my jaw dropped to the floor. Did she really just say that? The woman who had feminist literature on her bookshelf and never failed to induce a pep rally of self-empowerment at the end of each session? We were, of course, discussing (OK fine, […]
