I’ve never been afraid to ask for what I want in bed. I guess because during my teenage years I figured out I was/am a perv and I just owned it. But in my decade-plus of hooking up with dudes, I’ve come to see being clear about what I want is a bit rare: Guys […]
Recently, I’ve been talking to people in the BDSM community about the sexual assault allegations made against porn star James Deen by a dozen women late last year, and noticed that a number of the men I spoke with had a look of nervousness flash across their face when the subject came up. So, I started […]
As a professional dominatrix, and an all-around kinky lady, I love anal play. Your bum can play a delightful role in all sorts of fun, from a casual roll in the hay to the darkest, kinkiest scene ever. Sadly, homophobia and traditional sexual values mean that relatively few straight men consider asking to receive anal. They, […]
I texted him as soon as I woke up. “What do you want me to wear today?” I brushed my teeth and washed my face while I waited for him to text me back. “White button-down shirt. Tuck it in. Your jeans. Flats. Put your hair in a ponytail. Send me a photo.” I dressed […]
The words “feminine dominant” inevitably conjure a specific image. Without fail, there in your mind is that hard-bitten woman, the one with all the cliched, head-to-toe pleather, and the stern, fixed aura. I am in no way that woman. I am warm, I’m open, I’m loose-spirited. I’m messy. I am no ice-queen, the stern school-marm […]
Imagine a woman: She has a college degree and a job, she pays for her own house and car, and she’s not intimidated by any man for any reason. She’s smart, independent and strong. Isn’t it a puzzle, then, that she has sexual fantasies of being dominated? Actually, researchers say, it makes perfect sense. In […]
I flogged a man last night. Despite my Bettie Page-lite haircut and a propensity for sexual experimentation, this is not something I have done before. I did have a very brief flirtation with the field of professional dominatrix-ing, but I never got beyond the training phase due to both a poor collegiate work ethic and […]
Editor’s Note After multiple women accused James Deen of rape and sexual assault in November 2015, The Frisky made the immediate decision to end our affiliation with the porn star and to cancel his sex advice column with the site. In addition to believing it would be inappropriate to continue publishing sex advice from someone […]
I’ve never been afraid to ask for what I want in bed. I guess because during my teenage years I figured out I was/am a perv and I just owned it. But in my decade-plus of hooking up with dudes, I’ve come to see being clear about what I want is a bit rare: Guys […]
