You haven’t heard from me in a while. Apologies for the radio silence. Here is why I haven’t felt compelled to write lately: For the past three months I have been stuck in the same pattern. Step 1: Vibe with a guy at a party/bar/online and make plans for a date. Step 2: Go on […]
Last week, I went on my first date with Jack, the young publicist I met through work. And after I tell you all what occurred on that date, I’m confident you will understand why my first date with Jack was also our last. After taking the initiative to ask Jack out, I figured I’d let […]
For the first time in a while, I feel like I’m entering into a relationship at a healthy, comfortable pace. Things with Andrew are exactly where they should be: we’re becoming more open with each other emotionally and physically, we’ve met each other’s friends (and I’ve even met some of his family members), we continue […]
Eventful week here at Casa di Dater X: On Tuesday, The Big Easy moved into a new apartment, sans roommates and significantly closer to me. On Friday, I took my beloved pet to the vet to be put down. On Saturday, The Big Easy and I broke up. I’m typing through intermittent tears and practically nauseous […]
I’ve been thinking a lot about falling, and not just because I’m absurdly accident prone. For one thing, fall is here and there’s no denying it; it’s dark by 7 p.m. and there are already a surprising number of crackly leaves underfoot in the parks. But I’ve also been thinking about the act of falling: falling […]
A few weeks ago, I abandoned my practice of ruthlessly hunting down a husband like a poacher on the hunt for ivory tusks in favor of focusing on my own personal growth and being the happiest single woman I can be. Since then, I met and have gone on a few dates with a very […]
I checked Facebook last Wednesday morning, expecting the normal flurry of funny links and what-I’m-going-to-dress-as-for-Halloween updates. So the first item in my news feed landed like a punch in my stomach. “Good: the tumor in my left lung was removed yesterday morning,” the update read. “Bad: they had to also remove my entire left lung. […]
Every new relationship comes with its own bag of possibilities and pitfalls. We approach new romance hopefully, keeping our eyes peeled for warning signs and red flags that might tip us off about a character flaw or mismatch, and determine an outcome accordingly. But everybody’s past is different, and depending on what you want and need […]
I’ve had a high sex drive since I was a teenager. Over the last 14 years, whether single or coupled up, I’ve been fortunate enough to never really go ‘sexless.’ In relationships— whether they last three months or three years— my libido generally maintains the momentum of that of the Energizer Bunny. I certainly don’t have […]
